There isn’t much in life we don’t second guess. Regret is a huge part of human nature. There are many things that I’ve done that haunts me everyday, but getting pregnant is not one of them. I’m not gonna lie, at first it was. I regretted the growing baby in my stomach until I heard his heartbeat on the sonogram. Then I regret that I once thought he was a regret.
And I think that is what separates me from many other teen mothers. I know too many babies who were born out of wedlock to a 17 year old girl who dumped him at her mom’s and doesn’t do much to raise him. This absolutely disgusts me! I was 17 when I got pregnant, and 18 when I had my beautiful boy.. And I’ve never looked at him and thought, “well because of you I cant do anything, nothing that I want to do, because I haven’t grown up enough to maturely love my child.” Having a child is not like having a pet that you feed and play with for a minute then just leave alone the rest of the day. They are not a novelty- they need constant nurturing and love, so they can learn and become independent one day.
Not every teen mom is like that. I know of 4 right now and we are all wonderful mothers to our sons or daughters. But God it makes me so mad that some new mothers or fathers just shove this life to the side because they would rather do something else.. It just infuriates me. Today David and I were just watching our son lay on the carpet learning how to army crawl.. we were so proud. I turned to him and said, “Who in the world could just not want to spend time with their child, who would just not want to raise them and love them.” And he said, “Someone who is crazy, or just completely immature. But if someone was that immature, maybe it’s a good thing that they don’t raise their kid, so maybe they’d have a better shot at growing up right.” He is right, so if you can’t take care of your child, please be responsible and make sure they have a good family… Don’t say you’re going to raise them and just leave them with your parents, feed them a few times and then run off with your friends every night. Children need real love, not immature love.
Sorry for the anger of this post, I’m just sick of seeing kids in the supermarket that are dirty, sunburnt, with a soaked diaper and no shoes on.. you can tell their parent thinks they are just a hassle by the look on their face. It’s despicable. And those kids are learning by example. You are just so upset to know that its not their fault, and all they know about how to live his their unfit parent. I’m gonna make it my mission to help children like this and give them a good example.